Fatal Vision
One of the eternal illusions of mankind is that of linear progress. *Enlightenment* promised to be an improvement over what when before it. So did *Modernity*.
Each promised to release mankind from it past chains. Instead, each only succeeded in chaining mankind to a new set of ideological paradigms.
Feminism proved to be no exception to the trend. While promising to deliver women from perceived enslavement to men, it only succeeded in making *liberated* women slaves to the corporation.
Few woman - certainly none of them Americans with giddy heads stuck in the clouds of promised equality - quite understood that their independence from men was predicated on good paying jobs. *Equal pay* was the rallying cry of the new wave of wage slaves - largely products of public education - who never quite understood why they were allowed to gain so much political ground so rapidly.
Only now, are they beginning to see that they were merely a convenient stepping stone - even a doormat at the door opening - to hoards of even cheaper Third World labor. Six-figure housing prices financed by greedy bankers and increasingly shaky five-figure salaries paid by employers, eager to drive the wage scale even closer to four-figures as the cost of living spikes upward, are turning the feminist golden coach into the proverbial pumpkin!
If they are to survive, men and women are going to have to rediscover how to relate to each other in a more traditional manner. They are going to have to see each other as something other than competitors. For some, this will be an extremely painful process.
Rapidly disappearing are the days when marriages can be tossed aside as if they were disposable napkins at a fast food restaurant. Soon to follow will be the days when police will rush to save an odious woman from her inclination to provoke men.
In the absence of plentiful employment and a taxpayer-funded protection racket, *liberated* women will find themselves increasingly isolated, lonely, and forgotten. They will simply become as expendable as the traditional marriages they so vociferously shunned.
Hi
I have read several posts on this blog (possibly not enough?) and I am a little worried. I am in a Christian marriage where I occasionally spank my wife. I know what the Bible has to say about marriage - it is clear that most passages suggest that the wife should be submissive to her husband (as he should be to The Lord). A few suggest a form of equality; none suggest that she should be the ruler.
My worry is the (apparent) lack of the humility that I think should go with our positions as husbands. I do my best, but I am flawed. I am a sinner. I am human! And although I sometimes require my wife to submit to my discipline, there are times when I see her as the better Christian, or the better person. How can I be so conceited as to believe that I am always right?
I do urge every man to remember his own position, as a sinner saved by the sacrifice of our Lord and Master Jesus, through the mercy of God. And we should all reflect on this in our prayers and, especially, in our actions towards those women with whose welfare, support and guidance God has entrusted us.
Yours, alive and in love by the grace of God,
Andrew
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(From one Andrew to another... Great name!
You said... My worry is the (apparent) lack of the humility that I think should go with our positions as husbands. I do my best, but I am flawed. I am a sinner. I am human! And although I sometimes require my wife to submit to my discipline, there are times when I see her as the better Christian, or the better person. How can I be so conceited as to believe that I am always right?
Andrew, the way I see it, you are not disciplining her because you are perfect or always right. Your position as husband, leader of the home, is what "entitles" you to have that authority and the responsibility which goes along with the authority. God did not choose man to be the leader because the male sex is better, wiser, more perfect. We are sinners also, from right there in the Garden of Eden. Eve wasn't the only one eating that day.
In the New Testament, God commands us all to submit to authority, whether "masters according to the flesh" (your boss, the kid's teacher) or government agent (king, police, soldier, even the IRS I would have to assume... ack!). God knew that people in authority are people first... in other words, they will be imperfect, but we are still to obey the authority of that office. The police officer is human, a sinner, flawed; he still is to be obeyed. He may even abuse his authority. I believe that his sins will find him out and that God will deal more severely with a case like that. However, God knew there would be situations of misuse of authority, but still He did not write stipulations into that command to "obey authority".
I agree with you that we should remember our position. We are "joint heirs" with our wives. We are the caretakers and leaders of God's daughters, and I believe we will be called to account on how we treated them. I also believe if we allow them to behave in ways which cause damage to themselves or the family, we will be called to explain that, as well. It is very easy as a man to become passive and just allow behaviors and attitudes which are damaging, just to keep the peace. However, as an agent of God's authority here in earth, in my home, I think we are called to stand against sin, just as the police officer must in the community.
Thank you for posting,
Drew T
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Drew
And thank you in turn. I think your words are wise and helpful.
Good luck and God bless
Andrew
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Just out of curiosity, what kinds of actions are considered grounds for discipline? I know this would vary for each couple- I am just wondering. Another question I have is what keeps the husband from spanking in anger, or according to his mood. That is really scary to me. Thanks.
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Hi Carefree,
As you said, what constitutes grounds for discipline varies widely from house to house. Many couples begin with the three D's - Disobedience, Dishonesty, and Disrespect - and branch out from there.
As far as your second question, there is nothing, really, that KEEPS a husband from spanking in anger except that MOST husbands truly do not want to hurt their wives and are very careful not to spank until they have gotten their emotions under control. I guess it is a matter of trust, and usually a husband responds to that trust. Or to a softly worded request that he wait a few minutes until he is calmer before administering punishment.
Many women who are not in a CDD marriage suppose that a husband might become quite the monster if given the kind of authority a CDD marriage entails. However, those wives in a CDD marriage will tell you almost 100% of the time that their husbands became MORE gentle rather than less... MORE concerned with their feelings... less likely to bully or press their will upon their wives. Nothing seems to help a husband become humble and willing to serve his wife like the knowledge that she is truly submitted to his leadership.
I hope this helps.
Blessings,
Leah Kelley
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Thanks Leah, it does help. I've read a few of your stories also and I'm curious- are those scenarios typical as far as the severity of the punishment? Sorry for asking such blunt questions- I just have to know! Thanks again! carefreejoy
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Carefree,
Thanks for asking the question... it doesn't offend me at all... but no, no, no, no, no!
I would be horrified if I was punished so severely! As I have said before (but obviously not enough), my stories are FICTION and should NOT be used as a guide for CDD.
A typical punishment in our household consists of no more than ten or fifteen swats. I am a terrible wienie, a BIG cry baby, and my husband respects that
Blessings,
Leah
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Thanks again Leah! You are very gracious!
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