Above all, one hidden obstacle derails the practical application of *domestic discipline*. It is anger.

One reason is that spankings often occur when things are not otherwise going well in the marriage. They can temporarily exacerbate an already tense atmosphere.

Another reason is that getting spanked hurts. Sometimes women are genuinely surprised at how much they hurt. Moreover, getting spanked can be genuinely embarrassing.

Many times, men have little idea what to do when physical pain and mental anguish combine in the woman the love to produce seething anger. The associate venting has been compared to *expelling the demons*.

The above can become especially acute in young women - especially if they have never before been spanked or only perfunctorily spanked.

The secret to getting past a woman's resistance is much the same as for getting a motor vehicle through a stretch of mud on a back road. Keep going and do not get bogged down.

Unless the house is literally burning down, a man should *never* leave a woman angry! To do so is to give her the worse of all worlds in that her body has been put in pain without doing her mind any good.

It cannot be said enough that, when it comes to spanking, time is more important that brute force. In order to achieve the desired ends, the unremitting sting on her buttocks must reach her mind if it is to relieve her tensions.

As thoroughly complex beings, the connection between what a woman says or does, and her motivations can seem helplessly convoluted in the mind of a novice male. Yet, in the mind of the woman, it all makes perfect sense!

Because the truth eventually tumbles out, one of the advantages to spanking a woman is in gaining insight into how women think. For example, despite any arduous objection, most women are not as adversely disposed to an old-fashioned, over the lap, bare bottomed spanking as they would have men believe.

The veracity of the above insight can be verified in observing unguarded remarks by women about badly behaved women - such as, "She needs...," "Somebody ought to...," or "If I could I'd...!" Many times such expressions end in some reference to the means or ends of a sound spanking.

At the same time, it is equally important to remember that, although most women do not enjoy being spanked, they relish the calm after the storm. Getting through the paroxysm can be difficult.

Any initial resistance on the part of the woman is usually cerebral. Often, it is quite calculated. As part of their natural defenses, women can be emotionally and psychologically abusive.

By nature, women test a man's resolve. It is only after he has proven himself capable of handling her that this attribute fades.

More strenuous objections arise as the woman loses control. Unless a woman has already been *taught to cry* - and, thus, relieve her tensions - when spanked, this can be where the real power struggle begins.

Many a man has been taken back by the degree of anger than lurks within that sweet young thing he married. It is paramount that men understand that, if not curbed, the rage becomes a wrath capable of wrecking the marriage. It is equally important to for men to understand that, as with penicillin, one dose may not cure the malady!

The above difficulties can be compounded if a woman has been trained that she is the equal of any man - especially if she believes that women are mentally tougher than men - there is an underlying expectation of always being in control. By the same token, previous bad experiences with a man - such as her father or former husband - many only reinforce her need to resist.

This is where *time* is paramount, because many women are aware that they can *outlast* a man's hand. As a result, one way of assuring a woman that the man is up to the task at hand is to have a suitable implement - commonly a paddle or hairbrush in the United States - already in hand. Not only does the visual effect convey the message that the utensil in hand will *win* over a woman's brain when applied to her bare buttocks, it also keeps the man from the awkward realization that his hand is inadequate to task at hand.

The emotional collapse of the woman should be tacitly palpable. There should be no doubt in her mind, or his, that *he* is in control.

Despite politically correct rhetoric, there is security in the knowledge that the man is *in charge*. That singular fact of life explains why *domestic discipline* survived - even thrived under - the feminist onslaught.

With this security comes not only a sense of well-being, but also an ability to think more clearly and behave more constructively. To use a biblical illustration from Proverbs 14:1, a woman is less likely to destroy her house!

As a postscript, it is worth pointing out that the inability to overcome cumulative and chronic anger is one reason why self-administered spankings are not nearly as effective as those given by a man. Short of dementia, it is impossible for a woman unpeel all the emotional layers.

More likely than not, a woman going through the motions simply succeeds in putting her body in pain without doing her mind any real good. While she may shake her overloaded emotional baggage cart, it is doubtful that she will tip it.