The Forgotten Reality
Swamped by a tsunami of politically correct hysteria, the normal interaction between men and women has become a perceived aberration. Women have been told that they cannot trust their inner voice - unless, of course, it coincides with politically correct ideology. Men have not only been told, but also coerced into being something less than manly in behavior.
The result of the above brainwashing is a societal infrastructure that is teetering on collapse. Feminist-dominated public schools are zoos. One on ten are labeled *dropout factories*. According to the most recent statistical analysis, fourth graders are losing ground in literacy - again. Weapons and drugs abound in many schools. They have become places where not a pupil is spanked or a lesson worth learning is taught.
While foreclosures grab the headlines, broken and dysfunctional homes are the untold story. Children raised with single parent household head are several times (not just a few percent) more likely to have trouble in school, engage in substance abuse and sexual experimentation, have failed marriages, raise dysfunctional children, and even kill themselves than are children raised by their biological parents.
God knew what He was doing when He designed human reproduction so that it required two people of different genders to come together, copulate, and then raise the fruits of their interaction with each other. Likewise, He provided a mechanism for keeping households stable.
First, God put men in charge. It is sexist; but it is also true. Despite reams of politically correct propaganda, God did make men a little brighter and a little stronger so that they could be in charge.
Second, He gave men a mechanism for maintaining order. Call it *domestic discipline*, *moderate restraint*, or *wife spanking*. Properly used, it will sufficiently stabilize the relationship between a man and woman so that they are able to raise viable children even in a turbulent age.
Third, both physically and psychologically, He designed women to accept the authority of men. As Leah pointed out, most of the time it is the WOMAN, rather than the man, who wants discipline in the home. When men are unable to provide that which the woman requires or unwilling to restrain their own behavior, women want out of the relationship in about the same percentage as request *domestic discipline*.
Even physical tyranny is not the ultimate cruelty in marriage. Indifference is far more deadly both to women and relationships. Women in *domestic discipline* relationships know that men who really care also spank. That is why they both love and respect husbands unafraid to raise a hand over bared buttocks when necessary.
Although it cannot neither make a woman love a man nor put a bad marriage back together again, spanking can provide a means for two people willing to work out their differences to make things right again.
Spanking is effective because it is the backdoor to a woman's mind. A woman 's buttocks are the *ears* that she cannot stop up and refuse to listen. When coupled with a firm, but concerned voice, it can say things that will not be heard any other way.
Deep inside, both men and women know what needs to be done to preserve their marriages. The question is will they listen to that inner voice that bids them straighten things out before it is too late.
Very insightful...I especially agree to the plight of our young men. They have lost authority, clear direction and true masculinity. They are sinking into an abyss of impulsive, confused and wrong headed lives stripped of real manhood.
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I am a single christian woman looking for a partner who practices CDD. I agree that it is deep within me to want to give myself to a loving HOH. Any advice on how I find such a person??
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Finding *Mr. Right* is not just a problem for women seeking *domestic discipline* relationships. Common complaints include that "all the good men are taken" or of an inability to "find anyone meeting my expectations."
Furthermore, the search for a *domestic discipline* partner can complicated by several factors - not the least of which is the confusion generated by feminist propaganda. Among the more ludicrous claims was that spanking would surely lead to murder!
The loony feminist fallout has also had deleterious consequences for men as well. Mistakenly thinking that women love a perpetual pushover, many men have great difficulty behaving like men when the need to do so is important.
Yet, the primary casualty of feminist half-truths has been honesty. While diffident young men and coy young ladies have always had their communication difficulties, the uniting of the twain has been made thorny by rampant distrust born of feminism as well as an accompanying disintegration of social expectation.
A few decades ago, feminists tried to convince women that, if they wanted a dominate man, they were *crazy*. These days, they are more likely to play the morality card - as if *domestic discipline* were akin to the moral turpitude which feminism unleashed in the world!
Nevertheless, at the bottom of the jumbled and conflicting pile of misinformation and diminished social cohesion remains one rather solid fact. Despite feminist designs on *repealing the laws of biology*, God made men and women for each other. Were this not the case, the human race would have disappeared off the face of the earth long before now.
The key that unlocks the door to compatibility is communication. To be effective, behavioral and verbal elements have to line up - not unlike tumblers in a door lock.
In today's politically correct environment and *gotcha mentality*, mixed signals are deadly to budding relationships. Saying one thing and doing something else is the sign of a phony. It drives most potential mates away. Hence, a woman needs to be sure of what she wants.
At the same time, being blatantly up front about *domestic discipline* can attract the wrong sort of attention by sending an unintended message. It becomes an invitation for one-night stands and transient relationships that are more *kink* than substance.
One way to avoid either an eternal guess game or potentially embarrassing adverting is to simply discover how the other person feel on a variety of relevant issues. Among them might be finding out what they think about *Mrs. and Mr.* relationships - in which the woman *wears the pants* in the family. Almost everyone has known one or two of these curious entities.
Another would be to discuss alternatives to divorce. A variation might be to seek input on why some couples stay happily married while other divorce or go their separate ways while engaging in legal cohabitation.
By nature, women are inclined to test. It is probably the best protection that a woman has to avoid making bad choices. Hence, it would be a good idea to hone the skill and to use it wisely.
From the time she started dating, my future wife began unobtrusively testing men. Even before divorce became popular, she wanted to be sure there would be only one and that he would do what needed to be done. Although my future wife had watched me from afar - suspecting that I was *the one* - before I knew that she existed
Even after she arranged our first date, I was more interested in her friendship than anything else. I had no idea that she had been praying about me every day for years - especially when I disappeared into the tropics during military service..
A lengthy conversation following an impromptu date during the summer we began dating changed my prospectus. This time, away from her parents and a curfew - which she had broken on our first date just to let me know she was serious - the dialogue lasted until almost sunrise.
I remember leaving my future wife with an overwhelming feeling of having met someone special for the first time. I was positively enchanted. Without my realizing it, she had already begun rearranging my life in ways that I would have never dreamed possible.
On the other hand, the evening's conversation only further clarified things about me for my future wife. She found out that I was very much what she thought me to be beneath the surface.
It is important to remember that, when my future wife and I began dating during her teenage years, she was keenly aware that any husband would have to soundly spank her bare buttocks - harder than her father ever did - if he was to stay married to her. Yet, that tightly held secret was not at the top of her list of things to discuss with anyone unattuned to her silent prayers.
In fact, I only got a partial insight after we had been dating for several months when she began testing my mettle. As I have previously posted, I disciplined her twice before we became engaged.
Even then, despite the second being administered to her bare buttocks, my future wife remained a virgin. However, the experiences sufficiently expedited matters such that we married much earlier than her mother wished!
Instead, among the more important topics on my future wife's list of revelations was making it clear that she came from a line of college-educated women with no intention of becoming what would become known as Stepford Wives - mindless, fawning, and servile! As I have posted several times before, the singular promise that I made my future-mother-in law was that her daughter would finish college.
Even the mention of *domestic discipline* was absent from our conversation that long summer evening. In fact, I cannot say exactly when or how the discussion first arose. It may have been her letting me know that she would permit a goodbye pat on the seat of her skirt or pants - since there was not going to be a goodnight kiss!
For about a year our relationship was platonic. My future-wife was looking for a patient and faithful man as well as one able to handle her when the time came to do so.
Nevertheless, somewhere along the way, consideration of the topic arose quite naturally - without the issue ever being forced. Since then, I have learned that most successful *domestic discipline* relationships exhibit that quality.
Effective *domestic discipline* is simply not a big deal in these highly stable marriages. Nor does the execution thereof constitute a big production. There is - in a word - spontaneity. *Domestic discipline* is simply part of the ebb and flow of life that comes quite naturally.
At the same time, it is worth noting that spanking was not nearly as controversial when my future wife and were dating as it is these days. Growing up, I was at least vaguely aware that a few mothers of peers either were or had been spanked while wearing a wedding ring.
One was a relative bent over and spanked by her husband in the presence of and with the approval of her mother after the younger woman, then in her thirties, apparently made some catty comment about which she had been previously warned. With the possible exception of the initially embarrassed wife - whose demeanor was, nevertheless, remarkably improved by the experience - everyone present seemed to take it in stride.
In more ambiguous cases, a nurse and her second husband had a souvenir paddle hanging in a basement hallway. The implement made specific reference to *bride training* and well as more expected uses. So did a similar paddle hanging in the home of the parents of a West Point graduate.
Even in my youth, I did not think any less of these women. While *wife spanking* - as it was sometimes known - might raise a few eyebrows, it was not considered to be abusive. Usually it was more of a case of wanting to know *what did she do* than any curosity regarding what he did.
I would find out later that, whether they approved or not, most adults understood what he did and *where* he did it - and it was not as I had seen on television! Only gossips wanted to know with what and why.
Then, my wife and I married before feminist *bra burning* became a fashionable headline. Although many of her quite liberal college peers were shocked at the utterance, my wife would promise to "obey" without risking being treated as a pariah!
Still, even then, to make *spanking* the centerpiece of a relationship would have been a mistake. That said, couples talk - or should talk - about many topics on the way to the altar. Money and sex are among the more common examples. At some point in the give and take, they should also discuss *domestic discipline*.
Women have refused to marry men until they get their finances in order. Likewise, women have put off marrying a perpetual frat-house lizard or imbiber until he straightened up. In this regard, failure to behave like a man, instead of a limp-wristed politically correct clone, should not be an exception.
A few decades ago, a well educated, independent minded, and previously divorced trophy wife observed that it was not when to have sex or how to spend the money that caused marital discord and disintegration. It was what to do about spanking the wife when she needs it! In this regard, speaking from firsthand experience, she firmly believed that the wife needed to experience genuine pain in order for the spanking to be effective!
Over the years, I have also noticed that men with first failed marriages are more likely to spank their second wives. By the same token, previously divorced wives exhibit a higher probability of thinking it a reasonable solution to marital discord.
In an age of easy divorce, the rediscovery of *domestic discipline* by previously divorced couples is yet another imprecation feminism has unleashed upon itself.
The two principal mistakes that a couple can make are to either put an excessive emphasis on things such as money, sex, or spanking, or to diminish their significance. Often, exaggerating or disparaging the importance of them is symptomatic of more fundamental difficulties.
Hence, discussion is imperative. That is why it is important for a woman to find someone with whom a woman feels comfortable discussing *anything*.
Desperation makes a poor decider of with whom to establish as lasting relationship. There is a case to be made for early marriage. Too many experiences, especially if they result of cold, hard, cynicism, can make choices seem hopelessly confusing.
Even the finding *Mr. Right* may not immediately solve all the residual difficulties.
Despite a good start while we were dating, I became too lenient after my wife and I married. Like many men, I was afraid of *hurting* the woman I loved.
To further exacerbated matters, my attempts at understanding her *needs* proved futile. After a few frustrating years, it took my wife engineering another *date* - which included introducing her bare buttocks to an old-fashioned schoolhouse paddle - before I understood what women truly expect from men if they are to love and respect them.
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I am not in a relationship right now, I've just been reading sites on submission when I found this blog. I do believe men should be in authority so my question is not meant to start and arguement - I am sincerely asking...I'm curious, you commented that men were a little bigger/stronger and a little smarter - can you elaborate on that? I'm not asking because I necessarily disagree, I have had that thought before, but I can't figure out what I think...I don't think men are smarter as in passing a math test or something, but about other things ??? decision making or maybe some life other things?? I don't know? It seems that men don't get confused with emotions or something? Could you expand on that to give me some food for thought. What did you mean by men being smarter?
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In considering the great philosophers of the world - such as those found in the Great Books series - great leaders in history, military geniuses, great explorers, or even criminal masterminds and the like, what is the ratio of men to women? Likewise, in sports, why is it that women do not dominate?
More to the point, why - over the past several thousand years of recorded human history - has there been no dominant matriarchal society?
The Achilles Heel of feminism is that it cannot have it both ways. Feminists cannot claim women to be equal with men - only if some great unseen hand, worthy of a *deus ex machina* contrivance, would only appear and *level the playing field* - and, in the same breath, demand protection from men at every opportunity. That contradiction alone suggests some deficiency in cognizance.
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I am in a relationship submitted to my male partner. I do accept his control, and physical correction (spanking).
I do not, however, believe that men are created "brighter" than women. I think it is defeating to this cause to characterize women as inferior to men. It takes a great deal of strength and courage to submit, and considerable intelligence to manage a home and family. Choosing to embrace a role of submission and obedience is in no way a choice to embrace a lowered opinion of myself and my gender.
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Beginning with your premise that women are, on average, as *bright* as men, why is it that women are programmed to follow the male lead - even to expect it and come to despise men unable to handle them either mentally or physically?
One universal characteristic of *liberated* women is a belief that they are mentally tougher and smarter than men. Yet, despite mountains of credentials, the institutions that they dominate - such as single parent families, public education, and child welfare - have abysmal track records.
It is not that men are incapable of making mistakes. Even the most cursory reading of the Bible - a profoundly patriarchal book in which women play supporting roles - reveals the follies of men.
Yet, despite the failings of men, women look to them for leadership. Without it, as pointed out by the state of the institutions named above, they often flounder abysmally.
Like countless other women through millennia, you choose to submit yourself to a man. The question is *why*. Why this pattern if women do not recognize that, on average, men have something going for them that women do not possess in corresponding measure. There is more going on here that just *choice*.
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